We offer our deepest sympathies to all those who are affected by the tragedy that occurred on the night of October 1, 2017. We will be supporting our staff, students, and community that has been impacted by loss and trauma associated with this tragedy. Ways to Help Children
As in all situations, the best way to deal with children is honestly. Talk to your child in a language that he/she can understand. Remember to listen to your child and try to understand what he is saying and, just as importantly, what he is not saying. Children need to feel that tragedy/death is an open subject and that they can express their thoughts or questions as they arise. Remember to be loving, accepting, truthful and consistent. Most parents have the ability to help their child overcome fears and anxieties that manifest themselves following a traumatic incident. However, it is best to keep in mind that when a parent or adult feels that they are unable to cope with the situation, there are other means to assist the child. Parents may want to explore the kinds of assistance that are available in the community through government, religious and private agencies. (excerpt taken from National Institute of Mental Health, Helping Children and Adolescents Cope with Violence and Disaster, http://himh.nih.gov)
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Few things can help an individual more than to place responsibility on him, and to let him know that you trust him. --Booker T. Washington Most of the time it is easy to recognize responsible adults, but how can you tell if a child is on the road to becoming a responsible person? Parenting expert and author of ParenTips, Marilyn Heins, notes several characteristics to look for in a child who is showing signs of responsibility: respects him/herself and others, develops a love of learning, learns self-control, develops pro-social values, becomes empathic, stays in school, plans for the future, doesn't harm self or others, is kind, and builds a value system for becoming a productive, involved citizen. Strategies (part 1): 1. Children need to witness responsible adults in their world. It is crucial that parents and teachers be role models. Every day ask yourself, "Am I modeling the behaviors I want my children to learn?" 2. Begin giving children responsibilities at an early age. Have them pick up their toys, feed the dog, and put their clothes in the proper drawers. 3. Do jobs together. For instance, you can wash the dishes, one child dries them, while another child puts them away. If you are working in the yard, have a child help you pull weeds and/or retrieve yard tools. 4. When a child misbehaves or fails to live up to her responsibilities, don't ask, "Why?" By using 'why' you are inviting the child to come up with excuses and avoid responsibility. 5. Don't accept phony excuses. George Washington Carver said, "Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who make a habit of making excuses." 6. Take your child with you when you vote, volunteer, or attend a community meeting. They'll witness first hand on what a responsible citizen does. 7. Give each child a few weekly chores. Do not pay them for doing the chores. Children need to realize that everyone in the house is part of the family and must do their fair share of keeping the household running smoothly. Children should not be paid for doing basic chores such as making beds or taking out the trash. Children can be "paid" for doing a few big jobs such as raking the yard or cleaning out the basement. “I got two A’s”, the small boy cried. His voice was filled with glee. His father very bluntly asked, “Why didn’t you get three?” “Mom, I’ve got the dishes done”, The girl called from the door. Her mother very calmly said, “Did you sweep the floor?” “I’ve mowed the grass”, the tall boy said, “And put the mower away.” His father asked him with a shrug, “Did you clean off the clay?” The children in the house next door Seem happy and content, The same things happen over there, But this is how it went: “I got two A’s”, the small boy cried. His voice was filled with glee. His father very proudly said, “That’s great; I’m glad you belong to me.” “Mom, I’ve got the dishes done”, The girl called from the door. Her mother smiled and softly said, “Each day I love you more.” “I’ve mowed the grass”, the tall boy said, “And put the mower away.” His father answered with much joy, “You’ve made my happy day.” Children deserve a little praise For tasks they’re asked to do, If they’re to lead a happy life, SO MUCH DEPENDS ON YOU. Unknown Author |
AuthorI am a school social worker for CCSD's Wraparound Services Department. Our department mission is to enhance the academic, mental health, and social-emotional development of students by providing a system of care and support utilizing evidence-based and nationally recognized instructional practices, support from community agencies, and the strengths of dedicated school personnel to empower students and their families and promote success in the home, school, and community. I look forward to serving in both the Sandy Valley and Goodsprings schools. ArchivesCategories |